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Friday, August 29, 2014

It makes me feel a bit sad.


 I was out walking yesterday, with no real destination in mind. Got down to the gate, and there was a package for me.  Fedex and UPS can't get up here anyway, so they just leave my stuff in a bag tied to the gate. The UPS guy will call me but it's never the same Fedex driver so I just find things down there.

Before SciFi chick passed away, she had a little give away thing on her blog. I always enter those when someone has one, because I feel like you should be supportive of other bloggers and their efforts.

Once I won at The Other Ryan's Total Survival Libertarian Rantfest.  I think it was the only time I ever won anything other than the "you get audited this year" lottery or the "pull over so I can search your car" game the State Troopers play.

But I won the little game at SciFi chicks. It was a set of four books.  People had recommended them to me but I never got around to buying them.


When she passed away, I figured the books would not come and it didn't worry me. It seemed pretty trivial compared to the enormity of someone you "knew" on the net not being there anymore. I'm getting long in the tooth, and there are not many of my old friends from high school or college around anymore. I quit taking the UNM alumni magazine because I couldn't help going to the "In Memorium" section for the early 1970's, and I found too many names I knew.

Most of my extended family other than my siblings are gone now. Aunts, Uncles, my father, and so on, not around anymore. So I'm not exactly unaccustomed to this kind of thing.  It may just be , in this case, that the title of the book made me feel strange. "Going Home" is a Southern euphemism for death. Nobody here EVER says the D word.  Even if you are not religious, they say "he passed" or "he went home." When Ragnar was so sick, I couldn't bring myself to say that word.  Nobody at the vet would use it either. I think it's because it seems so permanent and so lonely.

Anyway.  She was a nice lady.  We weren't close friends, I read her blog and sometimes people would talk about her on other blogs I read. When I communicated directly with her about another matter, she was very gracious and pleasant.  Her blog is still there, too.  The other day I ran "Ragnar Ferret" on the google search, because I was thinking about him and feeling a bit low. He came up in all sorts of places. People had copied his picture and used it in their blogs.  That's good, because as long as there's an internet then it won't ever be like he never existed.  The same thing is true for the rest of us, and for SciFi chick.  That's a good thing.


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  1. " That's good, because as long as there's an internet then it won't ever be like he never existed. The same thing is true for the rest of us, and for SciFi chick. That's a good thing."

    It's kind of an odd thing also if you think about it. Someone like Scifi that had a blog and is now gone, but the blog is still up. Those that knew her but never hung out in person can still go and reread her blog and to some extent it still seems like she's still there. But those that knew her in real life have this big hole in their lives.....

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    1. Matt - you nailed it. there are a group of us and we have huge holes in our lives. she's never going to send another email, do another blog post, comment on one of our blogs, try something new to either screw up or become the Queen of it.....you really nailed it. there's just a big hole right now. thanks Matt.

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    2. Harry,

      You'll enjoy these books.....they're a good read. SciFiChick's blog will remain.

      Matt, you're so right.....there's a hole, she will be remembered :-)

      Matt:

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    3. I've read three of them and they are really good. I never would have bought them on my own with everything else I am trying to get done, or at least it would have been awhile.

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  2. Harry, that will make those books so much more precious. I loved her blog....and her politics! I think you will enjoy the first two books the most, the last one was too trite for me. Jan in NWGA

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    1. Jan, I haven't got to the last one, but I have enjoyed the first three.

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  3. It is a bit strange we develop these relationships with folks in the blogosphere and then they suddenly disappear. In the case of SciFi chick where the relations go beyond the blog and you communicate otherwise you actually are able get the sad news. As I am relatively new to the blogging world I never actually "met her", but heard the news in a round about way. So far I have three MIAs that have just plain dropped off the face of the earth. A while back there was JaeseiK Jeong of http://manta-bushcraft.blogspot.com/ in South Korea. One day he just stopped posting. More recently Tom Gowans over at "Hippo On the Lawn" in Angola as well as Lewis Amselm over at "The Diplomad". Neither are responding to queries. Totally out of character.

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    1. Usually when someone just disappears without warning, it means something went wrong at home. Health, or some such issue. It's not a good sign. But sometimes, people just burn out and it gets hard to write a good post, and they come back after a break.

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    2. Apparently as we feared Mr Amselm AKA "The Diplomad" has had some medical problems that kept him from posting. But after a highly irregular three week hiatus, he as finally come back to us with a post. I think more than a few fellow travelers here would share his views and appreciate his good writing and take on political /diplomatic events as one of the good guys who once worked on the inside. Here is his latest post. Peruse his blog back and there is more good stuff to be had.
      http://thediplomad.blogspot.com/2014/09/obama-is-he-our-boabdil.html
      Michael

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    3. I'm glad the guy is ok. I'll certainly go read his blog. I'm always looking for new sources of information and new contacts.

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  4. The Internet is an amazing thing. Through our blogs we forge friendships with folks we have never met and in all likelihood will never meet. And after a while we worry when something in their lives goes awry. When I was ill and hadn't posted for several days, you left a comment asking if I was alright. It was good to know that someone out there cared enough to ask. Others have been ever so supportive through trying times. We feel a sense of loss when one of those whose blog we regularly read and enjoy, passes, even though we may not have had a personal relationship with that person. Or when one of us loses a friend, like Ragnar. But because of the Internet, they will not be forgotten, whether it be our human blogging friends or our furry buddies. It is a comfort.

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    1. I think of it like ham radio. It lets you communicate with people who are far, far away. In most cases, you would never have met those folks without the internet. I sometimes wonder, if things just fall apart as it appears they are, what it will be like not to know how your contact on the other end of the line is doing.

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  5. Hey Harry,

    (captaincrunch)

    I know people that check obituaries to see who's dead as if its some kinda contest where the winner is the last one alive (sounds like some kind of crappy tv show)

    I know people that have 'kicked the bucket, bought the farm, pushing up daises, feeding the worms' or maybe in my case it will be 'feeding the sharks'

    I gotta say all this with a touch of humor. Life is too short to be focused on "what was" and not "what is going on, or what is next" You gotta find some passions to live for. I don't care if its nudism, hinduism or capitalism.

    When I'm dead maybe I will have my ashes (or whatever's recovered from the sharks stomach) UPS's to Kymber. Her and her husband get to figure out what to do with me next.

    I don't know what the future holds. Maybe I will get whacked' by an bullet from an Isis terrorist' on the Mexican border or maybe I will die in a brothel in Nevada.
    there is no point in being depressed about it. Death will come for all of us at one point or another. Thats been going on for 4.5 billion years or so. The trick is to live, and not just survive, but to live and have fun doing it.


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    1. captain crunch - i would be honoured to have your remains or ashes sent to me. here in nova scotia, we are allowed to bury people on our land. but if you wanted to be cremated, i would spread your ashes all over the river. the river enters into the ocean and you would eventually find your way back home. much love, as always, captain!

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    2. Hey Kymber,

      (captaincrunch)

      Thanks for kind reply. I hope you got a giggle out of it.

      I got a lot of friends and a lot of contacts but only one relative left alive. One day when I 'drop over dead' a number of people may receive some of my assets (most of which are illegal in Canada) I don't know if I will have my ashes dumped on the side of the road on Highway 118 in South Brewster county (West Texas) near Terlingua or have my ashes dump off the side of a certain pier on Padre Island (one of my favorite surf spots) or have my ashes UPS's to you in a Folgers Coffee Can (I live off the stuff, actually the instant stuff is my favorite) If I do will you some stuff (that's legal in Canada) you may have to drive down here to pick it up (or drive it up) I got two trucks that will need homes one day. Maybe you guys want a surfboard??? Yeah' there may be some teeth marks and bloodstains on it, but it can be repaired.
      Hey that's an idea. Send you guys a surfboard later in the future. It will take money. Shipping will be murder. Maybe I can scrounge some cash for some T-shirts from the best surf shop on Padre Island sometime this fall.

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    3. yes captain - i did get a giggle out of your comment, but i was being funny and sincere back. i'd take your ashes to the ocean and send you back where you belong. jam says "hellya" on the trucks - bahahahaha! and shipping a surfboard - it'd be cheaper to ship your "live" body - then we could meet and hang out, have a blast, eat a lot of good food and you could teach us to surfboard. heck, maybe we could even get harry up here for all of that, too. love you captain! xoxo

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    4. CC, when you get to be as old as I am, most of the important events in your life are in the past, and that's where your focus is. I'm not sure that's a good thing, but it's the way it works.

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  6. Kymber, I couldn't find it again to save my life, but I remember reading somewhere that she got her initial rabbit recipes from you. Seems like you were truly there early on, from way back.

    I like the way Harry worded his post here, no big claims of some great friendship, just a respectable acknowledgement of her passing. That's pretty much all I can say as well, one or two short emails exchanged... sad she passed like this.

    A lot of people cslled her friend. She'd be friends with just about anyone, it seems, huh , kymber.

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    1. Matt, buddy - she went to me and Phelan for rabbit recipes....she even went to Phelan for frog-leg recipes but that's a dumb inside joke that i referred to in one of my tributes to her (about her accidentally canning frog legs. but another long-time friend of Phelan's, Sci's and mine, Felinae made a comment about how she wouldn't be the least surprised that Sci canned a couple of frogs in her time - bahahahahah!)

      Sci, Phelan, mmpaints, Fel and i go way back - thank you for acknowledging that. Harry did a wonderful post here...it must feel awful weird for him to receive those books - but i am positive that Sci would be happy that he received the books. i have no trouble speaking on her behalf.

      Matt - you have such an intuitive side to you, it has been years that you have picked up on things that others have completely missed. and you have always been a good friend. as for Sci - she had a problem of telling people to get lost. even if she really felt that way. so ya - she'd be nice to a lot of people that she really couldn't stand.

      i really love your original comment. it is helping heal holes. thanks buddy. and we are always here for you and M. much love, my little brother. xoxoxo

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  7. That's so sad that you lost a blogger friend. I know it's not the same as a friend in person, but anyone that you connect with is still a friend.

    We say, "Lost", and "Loss" here. I guess I never really thought about it until you brought the word "Dead" up.

    I lost 1 blogger friend. It was odd, but for months every once in awhile I'd check her blog out. I knew she was gone, so what was I looking for? No new content. I just missed her comments. She to was such a nice person.

    It's good you got your package. It's fun to win things.

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    1. Life is that way. Since I intentionally live a life of solitude, my internet friends may assume an importance that "normal" people wouldn't feel. I know what you mean with going to blogs that aren't going to be posting anymore. I have done that, and I think for the same reasons.

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  8. That is a bit sad..Thanks Harry for posting this. Her loss has stung me a bit. This week the world has seemed less bright to me. But I know she is still with us. And if I question something I can refer back to her blog for some home stead guidance. I pray for those who knew her best and her family.

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    1. Nothing stays the same, I guess. When somebody disappears like that, with no warning and very suddenly, it makes a person consider their own mortality. Doesn't seem fair, somehow. The world has been around for millions of years, and will be for millions more with luck, but a person only gets a few years to enjoy it.

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  9. Harry - I read this posting on my phone during the wee hours of last night, but, as I wanted to comment effectively I decided to wait until I was on my laptop and it would be easier.

    I, too, am shocked at the sudden gap that SciFi has left. I had not been following her blog for all that long, but thoroughly enjoyed reading her posts. Her life was full, and rewarding, and she had her head screwed on right :)

    Her passing has certainly highlighted how one - through one's blog - touch people world wide. And how much of a community blogs create.amongst followers.

    The loss of a friend or a family member always leaves an open wound. Hopefully those who were closest to SciFi will draw comfort from knowing that the rest of us are still here, and willing to offer a shoulder when it is needed.

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    1. Dani, if there's one good thing about the internet, it's the access it gives to other people that you like. A person does form a group of friends, and if they can't be there physically they are certainly with us in spirit.

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  10. i hope you are well I looked for an email and found none. I have stopped posting at Rob In His Bunker and now use...http://atthelakeinthewoods14.blogspot.com/

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    1. Rob, was I supposed to send you an email? If I was, let me know because I can't remember what it was about. I'll check your new URL.

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    2. No Harry I was looking to send you an email instead of posting about my new blog. I just felt it was time to change things up and make a change for the better.

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    3. Ok. I got your new blog address. I thought maybe I was supposed to email you about something and forgot.

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  11. I always say "die" or "dead" because I did not lose something. Someone died. I had not been a long-time reader at Scifi, but I enjoyed her blog, and comments on her blog and mine.

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    1. Well, if you had a friend, and they died, you lost a friend. I don't guess it matters how people express themselves. She was a nice person.

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  12. Harry - check your email. you've got a doozy waiting for you in your inbox. try not to be too jealous ok? much love to you and yours always. your friend,
    kymber

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